Mastering Relationships: The Ultimate Relationship Advice You Need Right Now
Have you ever been in a relationship, whereby it's just too much?
Things are fine one moment then it dips again & again, confusing, stressful, upsetting, doubtful - right?
You've just had enough, then the next moment you're still there, next month you're still there, and it happens again, and again.
'Relationships' have many ebbs and flow... But it is what you do in the ebbs that make a difference.
So is there a secret, to creating flow and harmony in your relationships?
What if I told you there was one way, one way that helped transform many of my relationships, and it sure can be yours too.
Have you heard of the story of the angry man and the buddha?
Where It All Began
For many years I struggled deeply with relationships - whether it be with my family, myself, or the world around me. It always felt like that aspect of my life was falling apart, being put down, feeling worthless, hopeless, useless... as I could not see beyond what was and more. Broken down relationships, I lived it, I believed it, and I cried by it... But why couldn't I see a breakthrough? Then one day on a call with John Assaraf, I mentioned to him I was struggling with a relationship(s)... I felt hurt, put down, less than, then he said Sefika have you heard of the man and the buddha story? I was like no.
The story that flipped my relationships, and still to this day has so much power.
Anger - The Buddha & The Man
If someone doesn’t accept your anger, to whom does it belong?
One day, Buddha was passing through a village, Suddenly, a very angry and rude young man came to him and began to insult him.
"You have no right to teach others," he shouted. "You're as stupid as anyone else. You're nothing but a fake."
The Buddha was not bothered by these insults and listened patiently as the young man vented his anger.
The young man went away and came back in even more anger...
Unmoved or touched by the angry man's anger.
When he finished, the Buddha looked deep into his eyes and asked him in a gentle voice,
"Tell me, if you want to give someone a gift, but that person chooses to refuse it, to whom would the gift ultimately belong?"
The young man was surprised by such a strange question and replied: "It would belong to me because I bought it."
The Buddha smiled and said, "That is right. And it is the same with your anger. If you are angry with me and I do not feel insulted, then the anger falls on you again. Then you are the only one who becomes unhappy, not me. All you have done is hurt yourself. "
‘If you want to stop hurting yourself, you must get rid of your anger and become loving instead.
When you hate others, you become unhappy. But when you love others, everyone is happy.’
Will you accept the gift?
Had enough of accepting someone's gift (Anger, arguments, stress, hurt, suffering, and much more)
For many years I was always accepting those gifts—not knowing that by accepting these gifts was emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually draining and so much more. Is it easy to not accept a gift from someone you know, to not accept what no longer serves you?
At first, can be challenging emotionally, mentally, and physically - but if you stick with it enough, the change in front of you can be outstanding.
Ready to create flow in your relationships?
Respond vs React
Bob Proctor once very well put it, when he said: 'When you react, you are giving away your power, when you respond, you are staying in control of yourself."
Responding means you are turning away the gift; by reacting you are accepting the gift.
What do you choose, and how can you get started? A great little tip from my mentor John Assaraf - is to be in control of yourself, & here is a great way to get started:
Take Control of your Emotions
And remember...
What You Focus On Expands. What if I am always hurt, what if this can never change, what if he/she always treats me badly, what if my relationships always turn out bad?
But what if you were able to grow in strength, what if you were able to remain calm, what if your life is on a better path, what if your relationship with the world around you was even better?
As the law of polarity states, for every up; there must be down, for every inside; there must be an out, for positive; there must be a negative. What do you choose to focus on?
and from this point forwards will you be accepting the gift?
With love
Sefika
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