Stop Rejecting Yourself & Start Living Your Life

"The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself." 

– Steve Maraboli

“I’m not good enough.”

“I always mess things up.”

“I don’t deserve happiness.”

“I’ll never be as talented as others.”

“I’m a failure.”

“I can’t change my circumstances.”

“I’m too old/young to start something new.”

As you look in the mirror, what do you see? Do you accept yourself for who you are, or do you reject yourself for who you are not?

Self-Acceptance or Self-Rejection...

Which path are you on?

Hold On Or Rise up

You can either continue holding onto reasons from the past, making excuses, and rejecting yourself and the future that could be, or you can choose to step forward with self-love, compassion, and acceptance, embracing the life that can be.

But what if, as you read this, you’re thinking:"I am the way I am; I can’t change; it’s challenging; this is just how it is…"

The more you reject yourself, the more you reject your life and what could be.Every day, you stand in front of the mirror, weighed down by shame and guilt from the past—or perhaps you’re someone who is truly ready to break free and step into who you really are.

Can you truly accept yourself for who you are, or will you continue to reject and repel yourself?

Yes and here is exactly how to:

1. Stop Comparing & Start Accepting

In life, it’s easy to think, "They are better than me," but the truth is, no one is better than anyone else. Others may seem to have more or be happier, but there are also others who have less than you. The key is to stop comparing yourself to others—unless it lifts both you and others up. Why? Because it wastes your energy.

Comparison is a silent killer of dreams and aspirations. Stop looking down at people who look down at you; look up to those who lift you. If that person isn’t in your life yet, seek them out.

Accept yourself as the amazing human being you are and the amazing person you are becoming.

Step into Who You Really Are… Amazing

2. Challenge Your Limiting Beliefs

Now it’s time to confront your past beliefs. Every passing moment becomes part of your past—will you remain stuck, or will you choose what’s next?

Each time you catch yourself in self-rejection mode, pause and ask yourself:

• Is this thought actually true?

• What evidence do I have to support or refute this belief?

• If a friend said this about themselves, what would I tell them?

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Show yourself love and compassion, rather than continuing to self-reject. Your inner critic doesn’t need to run the show. Set boundaries and become your own best friend.

To dive even deeper, Reinforcement: Positive and Negative Thoughts, be sure to check out: How to Turn Negative Thoughts Into Positive Ones by John Assaraf.

3. Practice Self-Compassion Daily

   
   

Now, practice, practice, practice—the key in life is to practice what you preach. It’s not just about saying it; it’s about becoming one with it.

Every day, do something that aligns with the desired, improved, and empowered version of yourself.

For example, instead of staying in bed, make yourself a nice breakfast. Instead of avoiding the mirror, try smiling at yourself. Instead of saying, "I am worthless," replace it with, "I am worthy." Instead of focusing on the negative, create a list of all the great things in your life.

What is one step you can take to move forward today?

The key isn’t to get everything perfect at once. It’s about starting with one thing that makes you feel good and practicing it every day.

Why? Because the more you practice something, the more it becomes a part of your life. So, take the time to practice self-respect, self-love, and listening to yourself—because you absolutely deserve it.

Feeling fear, and do it anyways >>> 

4. Embrace Your Uniqueness

Have you ever heard of this saying "It’s not who you are that’s holding you back; it’s who you think you’re not." - Unknown

You are not meant to be like anyone else. You are special and unique, with ups and downs that shape who you are. Instead of rejecting these parts of yourself, celebrate them.

Choose to evolve, to become more than you are, but in a way that brings a massive smile to your face.

You are unique, incredible, and completely powerful in your own amazing way. 

Now is the time to start believing that.

5. Take Inspired Action

Self-rejection often keeps us stuck, afraid to take risks or try new things. But here’s the secret—you don’t have to feel 100% confident to move forward.

You just need to be brave enough to take that first step, even if you’re scared.

Remember, every time you choose self-acceptance over self-rejection, you’re reclaiming your power and saying to the world, “I am worthy of love, success, and happiness—starting with my own,” until you start to believe it’s true.

So, I ask you again—what do you see when you look in the mirror?

Be sure to take any of these tips and practice, practice, practice. Don’t give up at the first sign of resistance; grow into it.

Is it time to see the amazing, capable, worthy person who’s always been there? The choice is yours. Will you reject the rejection and start living your life to the fullest?

Who Says Life Can’t Change?

For me, enough was enough. Coming from a broken home, with my mom’s suicide attempt haunting me, my sister’s struggles with learning and mental health challenges, and a father who was verbally abusive, I felt unloved and unworthy. I was insecure, self-harming just to feel something, and I didn’t even know what it felt like to truly smile.

When I finally sought help, it felt like standing on the edge, rewriting my own depression story. I was told I’d always be depressed, always need medication. But that didn’t turn out to be the case.

This was my life.

Then, in 2018/2019, my now mentor John Assaraf appeared in my life, an amazing mentor and incredible human being. I joined a community with no blame, shame, or guilt—just pure care, support, and encouragement. It felt so strange at first that I wanted to run and hide in my old box.

Shortly after, I took on a 100-day challenge to study and apply the teachings from John’s book Innercise, every day, no matter what. Little by little, shifts began to happen in my life and within myself. I started to accept myself, to build self-worth, self-esteem, and confidence.

Then I took on multiple programs of John’s and more…

2000+ days of listening to the programs (Innercising) every day without missing a day.

10,000+ hours of studying, attending, and practicing.Direct mentorship and coaching from John…

I committed to taking action on what I learned, no matter what.

TO NOW—

Breaking down the barriers of extremely low self-esteem, self-worth, and past traumas.Finding someone in the mirror who is truly proud and smiles every day, no matter what. Achieving so much, building empowering habits, and envisioning a new, gigantic future.

In 2019, I became John’s Assaraf intern. By 2020, I was a group moderator, and from 2021 to 2024, an Ambassador. I blogged successfully for years and went from relying on government funding as a caregiver for my mom to achieving financial independence and freedom. What once seemed impossible became my reality, impacting many people’s lives.

Following My Heart

For over six years, I’ve been teaching and sharing my passion—what I’ve learned from John—with you. Why? Because no matter where you are right now or what you see in the mirror, things can totally change, and your life can make a massive shift. But it all starts with a choice—to make that shift.

Does what I’m about to share with you work? Yes, but only if you put in the work.

Today, I share this message to show you the possibilities and to bring some light into your life. Where you are today doesn’t have to define who you become.

There is a light that shines within and around you… Now is your time to become the person you truly desire and are destined to be.

Sefika Evliya